O.k. I have been asked before what is different going from 2 children to 3 children. Well, one is time. A lot less of it to update this blog. The other is more groceries and more laundry. Less empty lap time is another. I sleep a lot harder and want to sleep a lot longer.. And more sibling rivalry.
The hard part is trying to get neighbors to understand that Kole looks four years old and in China he would be like a four year old child. Here because he doesn;t understand the stuff he hasn't seen before and we can not seem to explain to him why he can not do the things his older sisters do, such as crossing the street alone when he wants to, climbing on the neighbor's transporting trailer whenever he wants with bare feet... etc... He doesn't get that some things we will let him do when he is accompanied, but can't unaccompanied. Maybe we just need to not let him do things that we would not want him to do unaccompanied. He has gotten in the habit, if it is nice out, he does not stay in the house, which is fine, except he just leaves and goes out and then we can't find him. Sneaky little runt.
He still likes anything with buttons or part of current technology. We foudn out today he did something with the computer to make the address line go away and powered off and on the computer with the power button instead of the shutting down windows properly. A system restore needed to be done.
I took him and the girls to Champaign-Urbana this weekend to attend the Adopted Sibling Program by the Taiwanese American Student Club. They all had a great time with their assigned sibs. Kali was with her Big Sib from last year, Joanna. Kaci was with her Big Sib assigned from last year, Connie. And Kole was assigned his own Big Sib, Roger. It took Kole a while, but he was having a great time. The college students all had him playing with their cell phones and taking pictures of him. I think he really had several Big Sibs before it was over. Kole's Big Sib was able to speak to him in Mandarin and I think it confused him at first and the big sibs taught Kali some Mandarin. Kali picked it up very quickly. They had a lot of fun and so did I. Boyd enjoyed having a day to himself before he had to go to work.
Next Saturday is our first post placement visit and I think our SW will be pleasantly surprised as to Kole's adjustment. She was able to meet him for a few moments on Saturday and seemed to think he was doing good. Another expert in the adoption arena in attendance could not believe he had only been here 4 weeks and with us 6 weeks. She was amazed at his adjustment even with the language barrier. Gestures, tone, and facial expressions have been working very well.
Today he called Tasha. He actually said her name, clear as day. He does not use Kali's or Kaci's names yet and he only calls me Momma occasionally, and does not call Boyd anything. He just comes up to him and smacks on him to get his attention and points.
Some day things will break through and we can have a conversation that is not one sided with him
Kole actually voluntarily with no coaxing kissed the top of my head today. So I kissed his back and he giggled like crazy. That boy can giggle and laugh really loud! Hurts our ears but we are glad he is laughing and not crying....unless he is really mad.
Well, that is enough for this time!
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